How do you get a teenage guy to open up?

There this guy (he's almost 17 and im 15) he's obviously been upset lately. I just know it. You can see it from his eyes when you talk to him. Or when you read what ims he sends you. I try asking him about it and i really want to help him, but he completely denies it. typical for a guy i know but i really think i should help him.





suggestions?How do you get a teenage guy to open up?
Stop asking him what's wrong. Don't even hint that whatever is wrong bothers you. He'll talk soon enough. However, be careful. The last thing you want is a melodramatic dude that just drags you down. How do you get a teenage guy to open up?
You know guys really do deal with stuff differently.





Talking definitely makes girls feel better. Sometimes talking makes guys feel worse. Having stuff pried out of them makes them feel like less of a man - and then they'll definitely feel worse.





If you want to help him, then help him in a way he's going to understand. Be friendly. Smile. Help him with practical stuff. Show you have faith in him and his ability to cope with the stuff life throws at him. For a guy, not asking what's wrong is the way you show faith. It's the guy code. His mates will be busy supporting him by carefully not asking him what's wrong.





Nope, it makes little or no sense to me either - but that's cos I'm a girl. I truly never realized that asking a guy what's wrong was kicking him when he's down - but in guy talk that's just what it is ;-)





The rules change a little if you're actually his girlfriend, but otherwise the friendliest and most helpful thing you can do is communicate your caring non-verbally.
He's a teenage guy. So many of those...


my cousin and I used to be gr8 friends when we were little.


I called him up recently because he's one of my ONLY family and the convo is like this:





Me: Hello ! It's your cousin!


Cousin: *drawl* Oh hi.. I'm busy now watching a movie.


Me: oh ok... Bye...


Cousin: *quickly* OK Bye---





And that was after years of not talking to him.... *sigh





He's just depresed and I love nurturing people and making them feel happy but some people are hard to help unless they learn the lessons by themselves...





All I can say is try doing some sports with him, heavy sports, get those adrenaline rushes going and when he is pooped he will be a bit softer to handle, then start with the compliments (NOT FAKE - GENUINE) and say you can't wait to see him again then quickly end the night with a sweet smile and say you hope he is very happy.